The Lord God said, “It is not good for man to be alone.
I will make a helper suitable for him.” Genesis 2:18

God made both male and female, both of us very different from one another but both of us made for a purpose. When we live according to His purpose, we see how wonderfully our roles compliment one another and the blessing that it is. We can then look at it as an honor to be our husband’s suitable helper. We will focus on how to be our husband’s suitable helper in three main areas.

The first main area of a suitable helper is to be a wife who serves our husbands. We are called to serve just as Jesus came to serve us. (Matthew 20:28) Just as Jesus came to serve us and to meet our every need, we can serve our husbands by anticipating and acting on our husbands needs and esteeming him as better then self. (Phillipians 2:3) This is not to say, we are in any way less important in the marriage. As our husbands suitable helper, we are his partner, one who encourages, cooperates and is supportive of him in his God-given role as head of the household and submitting to his lead. Which brings me to a second area we are called to be a suitable helper to our husbands.

We are also called to submit to our husbands as unto the Lord. (Ephesians 5:22) Submission is a word often cringed at by women and misunderstood. Submission means to rank ones self under someone else, yielding to their opinion and authority. Yielding to your husband’s opinion and authority is a choice, not something we are forced to do, God gives us free will. But when we submit to our husbands as unto the Lord, we can do it cheerfully. It does not mean you are a doormat to your husband, nor does it mean we can’t have any say or input in matters. On the contrary, wives should speak with wisdom and faithful instruction (Proverbs 31:26) but should submit to the final say or decision of the husband. By submitting we give our husband’s the chance to lead by respecting their God-given leadership role. Which brings me to a third area we are called to be a suitable helper to our husbands.

We are also called to respect our husbands. (Ephesians 5:33) The amplified bible tells us how to respect our husbands beautifully. It says to notice, to regard, to honor, to prefer, to venerate, to esteem, to defer, to praise, to admire and to love him exceedingly! God wants us to show respect to our husbands with our words and actions. He does not tell us to feel respect because many times we may not feel respect. When we respect our husbands we are providing for one of his greatest needs besides his need for physical intimacy. Once we have a heart attitude of respect for our husbands, it makes it easier for us to submit and serve our husbands as God calls us to.

Wives can have tremendous influence in the marriage in our role as a suitable helper and we can look at it as an honor. When we respect, submit and serve our husbands as God calls us to do, it draws us closer together in love and understanding of each other and our roles.

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The Man You Always Wanted Is the One You Already Have

Personal Review:

The Man You Always Wanted Is the One You Already Have is a wonderful book that all married women should read whether they think they are already married to their Prince Charming or not. Paula Friedrichsen shares from her own personal experience in her marriage and how a relationship that started out innocently at first soon became inappropriate, almost destroying her marriage. She was given a new “heavenly perspective” for her husband after everything was brought out into the open and shares some wonderful biblical insights on how we too can begin to see our husbands with new eyes so we can keep from going down the wrong path in our own marriages.

It is wonderful how the whole book helps us appreciate and view our husbands, imperfections and all, from a “heavenly perspective” because so much of everything else we read and watch tells us differently.

Overview from Book:

He’s predictable, proverbial, and prone to leaving his dirty clothes in a pile beside the laundry basket. He’s the big lug lying mext to you every night - and believe it or not, he is your Prince Charming!

But what happens when a man other thann your husband begins looking and sounding more appealing?

Transform your marriage with the realization that the man you always wanted is the one you already have. Striking biblical insights, combined with Paula Friedrichsen’s candid revelations about the inappropriate relationship that nearly destroyed her marriage, will help you see that no man compares to the one you already have.

Discover how to:

* embrace the differences between you and your spouse

* revel in the freedomo of forgiveness

* draw near to the only Source of lasting fulfillment

To learn more about Paula Friedrichsen and her book “The Man You Always Wanted Is the One You Already Have”, visit her website at: www.PFMinistries.com

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